I know this may sound corny but it’s very much true for women chasing that elusive orgasm. While I have managed to give many women their first orgasm, sometime late in life, there are also several women for whom I tried everything I know without success. And those who claim can make any women orgasm or squirt for that matter, are clearly charlatans and have no clue what they are talking about. They are either lying or haven’t done it enough to know.
There can be many reasons for that: mental block (caused by religion, culture, trauma) , injuries, physical and mental health issues, medication or not knowing your body well enough, lack of exploration to find what turns you on etc.
Apparently, 10%-15% will never experience an orgasm. If you think you are one of those women, don’t necessarily give up but focus on the moment and what gives you pleasure. You can still enjoy sex and intimacy without orgasms and you never know, you might eventually be surprised to realize you’re in the 85% group!
There are also women who can reach an orgasm while masturbating but not with a partner. It’s not always because of a lack of skills or interest on their part (although often is). It really comes down to communication. You need to tell your partner what you like and how you like it. Show them! Don’t be shy. Using toys is totally fine too if that is what it takes.
Most men will want to make their partner cum. Most women do require time to get them there but many men will get lazy. If you are the quiet type that might not help. Keep them interested by moaning and giving them feedback, tell them how good he makes you feel etc. This will encourage them to keep going. If you don’t make much noise, they will think you’re not enjoying it and will quickly loose interest. And by making sounds even if you’re forcing yourself at first might actually help you relax and connect deeper with your body. Don’t forget that your pleasure is as important as theirs, never feel bad about how much time it takes. If they truly care about you, they will want to give you pleasure and do what takes to bring you there.
And guys, ladies cum first! Focus on her comfort and pleasure, take your time and you will be rewarded.
