I must confess, I’ve never really had a kinky partner and I’ve only started to learn more about BDSM not that long ago when I created a profile on Fetlife.
Over the years I’ve been exposed to a wide variety of personalities and needs. No two women are alike and I discovered that many women either fantasize or truly enjoy being dominated.
It was something foreign to me as I was raised to cherish and protect women (I have 3 sisters and I’m the eldest). The idea of dominating a woman felt really wrong and I could not understand why women would enjoy that.
As I learned more about it, I discovered that there is nothing wrong with those activities if done in a respectful and consensual manner. Furthermore, I began to appreciate the fact that for true adepts, it fosters a higher level of communication. It establishes a position of vulnerability for the submissive person and one of responsibility for the dominant one. It creates an intimate and special bond of mutual trust, a contract of sort. Something intrinsically beautiful.
I have seen many women from FET for whom this is their standard way to experience intimacy. I would then encourage them to explore a more gentle and sensual touch and perhaps discover a whole new world of sensations and arousing possibilities from what they are used to.
Alternatively, “vanilla” women who tell me they never experienced an orgasm or who have difficulty obtaining them, incorporating light kink could be something worth exploring and perhaps help unlocking their pleasure chest.
I am pleased to announce that I now offer the option to incorporate some soft BDSM elements to your session.
- Spanking
- Pussy slapping
- Hair pulling
- Fisting
- Hand on throat
- Handcuffs / restraints
- Buttplugs
- Dirty talk / Praises
These are performed at key / peaking moments with the intent to satisfy your specific a craving or curiosity and with the goal to help you climax.
My updated intake form will give you the option to select the components you wish to include.
Nothing extreme and you are always in full control. I like to use the traffic light system for communication so you can give me quick and clear feedback.
- Green – Keep going
- Yellow – Slow down
- Red – Stop
Feel free to discuss with me anything else not on this list.
