What is eroticism? It’s the human experience with the elements, thoughts, feelings that stimulate our sexual desire, attraction, arousal and pleasure.
It’s where sex and mindfulness meet. Something you have control over to get you in the right headspace to elicit physical arousal. Elements that can set you in the mood like music, aromatherapy, reading erotic literature, wearing a sexy outfit, a blindfold, satin sheets or the feel of leather, having a glass of wine, or a toke of weed, dim lights, watching porn etc.
If you are not sure exactly what gets you in the mood, experiment! Pay attention next time something triggers a response for you and write it down to not forget it. These are all very personal, it can be unusual so don’t let that intimidate you and don’t try to understand why say, the smell of popcorn, or feeling a breeze on your feet makes you horny! Just roll with it!
Ultimately it is how you can manipulate and set up your environment so it feels safe and comfortable for you, creating the optimal conditions for you to get aroused and experience pleasure without anything bothering you.
This is something I suggest exploring with, especially if you are the type who tends to be in her “head” a lot and doesn’t orgasm easily. The beauty of it is you can do this alone so experiment with this on your own first when you masturbate and then try it out with a partner.
