A lot of women are stigmatized and have experienced trauma in regards to their appearance. Whether it was through an abusive relationship, body shaming or self-inflicted depreciation, they struggle to love and appreciate their body, often resulting in the inability to harness their sexual energy and fully enjoy the pleasure and sensations their body has to offer.
I guess it doesn’t help that in our modern world, we give seconds to evaluate someone solely based on their looks. We swipe left or right and just like that we made our opinion on someone.
No wonder so many women let their perception of their appearance (real or imagined) be the sole measure of their worthiness and value. Please do not let your self-esteem and confidence be destroyed by your “insert your loathed body flaw(s)”. You are far more than that.
How people truly connect transcends the physical realm and is really based on how they make each other feel. It’s about how someone brings the best out of you (perhaps as well, how somehow may help to keep at bay your less pleasant traits) and vice-versa, how you bring the best out of them and make them feel special. This has far more to do with personality, character and dispositions. The physical bodysuit we carry around eventually fades and is the mere vehicle for the more important stuff.
If you are single or mismatched. Have faith and stay positive. You will find that person that sees you for who you are. That might also mean to perhaps change your dating habits and adopt a similar outlook on who you’d consider as a possible partner.
Many of us have a so-called “type”, sometimes that should be labeled as a pattern of failure. We all have a friend or a relative that has difficulty having a long term relationship. They jump from one relationship to the other, scared to be alone too long, only to end up with the same type of person that proved to be a bad match for them. In such a case, you need to break that pattern.
If you have overcome your own issues of self-esteem and want to be seen for who you really are, do the same when dating. Give that person who you would normally not consider a chance for you to see them for who they are.
When we make a “pile of flesh” with another human being, we crave to gaze into each other’s soul and make the world around us phase out. In that moment of ecstasy and deep connection, the physical dimension is gone, irrelevant and no one will give a fuck about your stretchmarks, flat chest or whatever it was you thought made you less desirable or worthy.
