Sex can easily and quickly become a routine affair. We are creature of habits, sex often will end up happening at similar times / days / location and soon you can predict how it starts, ends and everything in between. No matter how good your sex life is, predictability and routine activities eventually become boring.
Here are some suggestions for exploring and spicing your sex life and discovering new sensations and fresh horizons. I will discuss some of these in more detail in future blog entries.
Getaway weekend
Break the routine, go off on a fun, getaway weekend and do naughty things. Skinny dipping, sex in a jacuzzi, sex on the balcony etc.
Take a course
Some sex toy shops will offer seminars on various topics, the art of the blow job, the art of cunilungus, How to have anal sex etc. There’s always something new to learn.
Toys
Buy them for the first time or buy new models / different ones. Experiment with remote control models. Go to a sex shope with your partner see what’s there.
Have sex outdoors
Find a secluded lake, forest, beach. Bring towels and have a sexy picnic!
Phone sex / Video sex
Your partner is away? Why not try some face time masturbation.
Get a sensual massage!
Some providers will offer couples massages where you both get massaged side by side at the same time. Hear your partner moan being touched by someone else.
Exhibitionism / Voyeurism
Go to a nude beach, go to a swinging club. Have sex online, some website you can broadcast your bedroom activities. Wear masks for privacy.
Anal sex
Not for everyone but give it a shot, you might love it. Make sure you follow proper hygiene practices (never insert anything in the anus and then go to the vagina or mouth despite what we see in porn videos. Using gloves or condoms on a toy is recommended. There are other washing preparations that are also recommended ) Make sure your partner uses a lot of lube and goes slowly. It doesn’t have to culminate to penetrative sex. It could be just a light stimulation of the outer anal region or insertion of the pinky. Worth exploring if you never tried.
Experience same sex intimacy
Being intimate with another woman, experiencing the touch and feel of another female body could bring new sensations and pleasures.
Explore Kink
There is a whole world of sexual fetishes and games as part of the kink world. D&S dynamics, blindfolds, restraints, S&M, a lot of it is stimulating the brain which after all is the largest sexual organ.
Role Play
Playing pretend can be a lot of fun and surprisingly arousing. You dress up differently, call each other different names and assume a new identity for the game. Say you are house sitting a friend’s place, pretend you are this realtor who is wearing a bold cleavage or has gone commando. You really need to make that sale and willing to do what it takes to close the deal with this dashing potential buyer…
Swinging
Some adventurous individuals like to explore and expand their sexual horizons by trying swinging and group sex. Seeing our partner pleased and pleasing someone else is unsuspectedly thrilling and arousing for many. It’s can be a way for a couple to build complicity and allow themselves to explore having sex with new partners openly and perhaps satisfy some curiosity.
