Toys are a great way to explore and get to know your body and figure out what you like. There’s a wide variety from dildos, vibrators, g-spot stimulators, anal plugs etc. You can use them when alone and of course during sex with a partner.
There are now models that can be controlled remotely via an app and controlled through WIFI, so a partner,(even across the world!) can operate the device for you. One company has an app called “Lovense”. Your vibrator will play along in rhythm with the music you’re listening to. There are even chat rooms where you can give temporary control of your toy to an anonymous person online! Furthermore, if you want, you can also choose to text, audio call or even video with that person while they control your toy. Or keep it more like a “glory hole”, so to speak and just enjoy the experience anonymously without any further interaction. Lay back and enjoy and log out when you’re satiated!
Not only that but by design and how you wear it, these toys are discreet and thus does not restrict the use of them to the bedroom only… This can offer all sorts of naughty possibilities where you are out and about and your partner has control over this pleasuring device that is inside you… It can be a fun way to spice things up and build that complicity with your partner when they aren’t around. It can turn a routine grocery shopping trip into something a lot more fun! Make sure that little red light isn’t seen through your clothes, it could catch a few surprised stares!
The one danger with using toys is some women end up unable to reach an orgasm without them. Perhaps the prolonged use has made them somewhat desensitized and they then need that high and sustained stimulation to climax. It’s often a psychological barrier that has emerged, where some women, after unsatisfying sex start to believe they can’t reach an orgasm during sex with someone anymore, thinking their use of toys might be the reason why. Or that somehow they are “broken”. I’ve proven a few ladies that they were wrong about that.
There are several approaches to reconnect with your body if this happens to you. One advice I have is to incorporate your favorite toy during sex with a partner. Have them use it in combination with penetration, oral sex or other caresses. It will help you build that comfort and confidence and you are likely going to gradually see less need to reach out for your toy when with someone.
If not, well there are worse things in life. Use your toy as needed, at least you are able to climax some women just won’t with or without toys.
Ben wa Balls / Keiger Balls
Perhaps a lesser known toy but it should be the first one you get.
The best thing is you have nothing to do! You just insert these balls in your vagina and it will automatically start contracting and do these kegel exercises for you. Your vagina is a muscle so don’t neglect it and keep it strong. It will strengthen your pelvic muscles, make your vagina tighter, improve continence, give you more pleasure during penetration, give you even more powerful orgasms and even help you squirt.
Start with small lighter ones and work your way to the bigger and heavier sets as your muscles build up.
